Comments on: eHarmony Review from Jake

By: Beatrice Livingsberth

Beatrice Livingsberth — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 06:06:31 +0000

I talked to four guys at length and got nowhere with 500 or so and spent a TON of money.
The first guy wanted to jump into something right away and when I wanted to take it slower he told me that he had met someone and that he didn’t want to talk anymore.
The second guy was a VERY angry police officer who had an angry outburst on our VERY BORING date.
The third guy kept asking me to meet him in a hotel for weeks and then when I kept saying no, it. Turned out that he had a fiancée that I found out about accidentally.
The fourth guy came from another city and wasted my weekend only to go home and block me and tell me several days later that he was still in love with his ex-girlfriend.
WOW…so much for my personality and getting fixed up “scientifically”.
I can’t begin to tell people how disappointing my experience was with EHarmony. It morphed me into a jaded young woman in six short months.
Maybe someone else will have good luck.
My luck means nothing…it is just what happened to me.
Good Luck!

By: kris

kris — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 12:18:31 +0000

I was on e-harmony several years back. The one thing I knew for myself was; I did NOT want to have a relationship with an addict having just come out of a relationship with an addict and experiencing first hand all the problems that caused.

EVERY person I was matched with was an addict of some sort, alcohol (some in recovery, others not), cigarettes, gambling, drugs. Perhaps there is something in my profile that labels me ‘enabler,’ but I knew there was no way I was going to even try to have a relationship with any of the people eH matched me with.

Still looking, but getting settled into the possibility of spending the rest of my life single.

Total waste of time and money.

By: Jared

Jared — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 09:33:27 +0000

I will share my unbias and fair view so far on my 3 year experience on eH.

Positives: I think eH has a good reputation since the founder is Chrisitan and I truly think and have faith that he wants his customers to have success. The matching process is different and unique, but thats a good thing. Answering those 200 questions are annoying, but its worth it.

Negatives: I wish eH would tell you who are currently paying customers. And its a little expensive.

My views on the type of women I have came across so far while been on the site.

I would say half of the women I have came across treat online dating like a game. I have had a few women tell me straight up that they don’t take this seriously and there just on it for a month bc a girlfriend put her up to it. I respect the honesty from thos women, but I found it to be very frustrating.

And another very irritating trend I have seen from eH women is that MANY of women don’t post a picture of themselves. Give me a break. I personally think no matter what one looks like, you should post a picture.

And another pet peeve from eH women. When you post a total of 20 words on your entire page. Once again, that tells me one isn’t taking this whole eH communication thing SERIOUSLY.

I have also came across a few scamers and NEVER give in to anybody who is from another country and they want you to send them some money.

And the biggest thing I have learned from my three years of trying eH is that the turnover rate with your matches is EXTREMELY HIGH. I just wanted to throw that out there bc it is true.

Good luck and God Bless you while on your journey in life!

By: Tyson

Tyson — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 00:23:27 +0000

Well, after reading all of your success and failure stories, I’ll give you my situation for what it’s worth. I’ve been on eharmony since December of 2003. That’s 7 years people. Did eharmony guarantee me true love? I guess that would depend on a certain perspective. Now this is where I might seem a little superficial, but I believe I’m entitled to what I’m attracted to. As you know, the site doesn’t let you specifically choose your physical preferences for your matches. I bent the rules, and blatantly put down in the “In your own words” section that I’m attracted to physically fit or average built brown-eyed brunettes. Most of the matches that contact me are overweight, or remotely resemble the description of my ideal mate. I’ve given a few of them a chance, but realized that it just wasn’t doing it for me. It felt sh**** to go on a few dates with these people and make them feel like I was actually attracted to them and then one day just telling them that I wasn’t all there for a relationship. I was living a lie and it was unfair for them. It never fails to inspire me how all of the beautiful brown-eyed brunettes that view my profile either instantly close me out or never respond to my desires to communicate. Once in a blue moon, there will be one charmer that will go out of her way to contact me first and we carry on the communication until her free trial period ran out and all communication with her would be automatically closed. I really hate you eharmony for letting this happen as well as not living up to your reputation for finding what seems to be for everyone else but me, true love. I was a 28 year old bachelor when I joined, and now I’m a 35 year old one. Yes, I suck at meeting women outside of internet dating primarily because let’s see, hmmm, they all have boyfriends, fiances, or are married. I’m usually not all that negative, I’m just getting tired of not finding the right one.

By: thexder

thexder — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 06:14:37 +0000

Jason, if that’s true then men are screwed big time. Period. It’s practically impossible to get any relationships started for the vast majority of men during university/college – everything is basically ‘finding yourself’ or ‘no strings attached’ relationships which fizzle out rather quick, assuming any relations exist at all. The experiences of those who’ve found their match is DROWNED OUT by those still single. Compare it to a drop in the bucket vs the ocean. Is one truly useless as a human being unless one can find a relationship within that 20-30 year gap? With divorce rates and celebrity worship it’s only gonna get worse. I feel bummed out about life right about now.

By: Jason

Jason — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 15:24:43 +0000

I am on E-Harmony (again). They have a deal going on and I tend to try out dating sites randomly in between relationships when I spot a deal. I’m 34 now though and it really is getting tougher to find anyone. People like to pretend that age is jut a number and you can find someone as easily in your thirties as you did in your twenties but that just isn’t true. I don’t want to go to a bar and get drunk and I have a lot of responsibilities that keep me from socializing. Anyway, I am getting matched with a bunch of overweight women that are way older than what I said i was interested in. Maybe that’s just the way it is but if it is….no thanks. I’m glad that I’m okay w/ being single because if it was THAT important to me I would be seriously bummed at the prospects out there. Word to the wise: if you want to be married be sure to grab someone when you are 25-30. Anything over that is going to get pretty scarce.

By: marga

marga — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 16:54:27 +0000

I read all comments here. I want to tell you guys that scammers and mind players are everywhere. In fairness,it is NOT exclusive to eharmony alone. Go to match.com,and a thousand other online dating sites they are aplenty. Terrible I tell you! I know I met a lot of them and because I’ve been around a dozen of online dating sites. At match.com, I customized my search to men of ages40-45 yet I still received matches like 48-60. Another thing, should you discover that your date is different from what you saw in his/her profile that is not the responsibility of the dating site. Blame it to the person. He/she is responsible for everything posted there. I’m also wondering why you guys don’t seem to know of the risks of online dating. Those horrible experiences you have are really bound to happen and thus will always be. You are here therefore don’t complain of any negative turnaround.

And by the way we have been warned time and again of its dangers– I repeat, nothing here is fool-proof. There are members in online dating sites who are scammers. But just be lucky you meet a real good one. See I don’t generalize bec I do believe there are also real honest men on dating sites. very few maybe…

By: J

Tue, 24 Aug 2010 04:49:08 +0000

I’ve had mixed result w/ eharmony. The first time I used it was 3 years ago. I met my ex-bf right away, he was the second guy I went out with. We had great 2 years together but it ultimately didn’t work out. Three years later, I’m using it again.

The first time, the matches I recieved were great, the men were educated, attractive, and all were near by. I only used the site for a month. I stated I’m Christian, my ex-bf is Jewish and I’m Asian! : )

The second time, the matches don’t seem as good. I’m getting a lot more matches w/ older men. I guess now that I’m over 35, I’m just not getting the matches I would like.

By: G

Sun, 11 Jul 2010 16:37:06 +0000

Hi,

I joined eHarmony several months back but did not give it any interest. Recently I decided to subscribe and so went to look at the matches that had been sent over the last few months.

I must admit at first I was quite impressed but with each passing profile I was more disappointed. Firstly I specifically mentioned I wanted kids as a personal preference and it was very important to me but still had several matches of women over 40 which struck me as odd.

I chose my ethnicity and a few others just to be flexible but kept getting several African American matches. So I do not understand the point of asking you to choose your options.

A lot of the matches seemed unresponsive which led me to wonder if they were genuine or fictitious. Still undecided but as eHarmony advised try and communicate to as many as possible so I did and just thought even if I dont find a partner I could make a few friends along the way..not much luck there…lol

Ohh and for the misleading pictures i was very shocked to see very young and attractive looking pictures and then one or two pictures of much older or bigger looking ones snuck in. I thought it was quite deceptive as most of the women if not all said honesty was the most important quality in a man they were looking for.

“Honesty” REALLY??? lol . Cant really blame eHarmony for that one. But be warned that happens.

And last of all I did meet one who said she did not subscribe to eHarmony but managed to send me her email contact as an email which I am pretty sure is not possible unless you are a member. Right? The jury is still out on that one.

By: N

Fri, 30 Apr 2010 22:40:37 +0000

Hey I haven’t read all the comments, but I’m a white female, under 21, atheist and I was accepted. Also, I get at least 10 matches per day.